I find myself in a hard situation with a Muslim man I love.
Second and third generations are not very keen to marry a relative or someone coming from the ‘village’, poorly versed in English or/and poorly educated.
I am a secret to almost everyone he knows, and when he took me out to lunch at his favorite café he asked me not to hug him when I arrived, just shake hands.
I understand why, I really do, but personally as a woman of 41 years old that still wants to have children, am I kidding myself to think that he might eventually come around or that it could even work at all?
The moral impossibility to ‘date’ in Islam and the central role of the ‘family unit’ in Muslim morality also play important roles in directing single Muslims towards these now popular ‘halal dating’ activities.
In Mirzan’s view, the elders are not doing their job anymore, but are instead failing the younger generation with what he identifies as a ‘postcolonial mode of thinking’ that consists of blaming the British for everything that is wrong in the community: “Marriage is all this generation has left for them and look at the result: the number of divorces keeps on continually increasing!